September 13, 2006

 

Dear Family and Friends:

 

We are on cloud 9. Alexia brings so much joy and energy to our lives. We love every minute with her. Watching her personality emerge, watching her learn and grow is a daily adventure, we are so incredibly blessed.

 

Alexia had a wellness checkup with her Pediatrician today. Yeah, no shots this time around. From this point on we will be scheduling her wellness visits and immunization visits a week apart. It is important that Alexia start to have positive experiences at the doctors office.

 

Alexia is in excellent physical health. She weighed in at 25lbs 6oz., this is 1lb 6oz more than her 18 month checkup and 5lbs over the last 6 months. Her height checked in at 34.25 inches. WOW, she is a tall little girl. This is 2 inches taller than her 18 month checkup and just under 3 inches over the last 6 months. Her feet have also grown 3 shoe sizes since April, although it is a narrow foot at that. All of Alexia’s blood work has come in within the normal ranges. She has one last set of blood work to be done and then that’s it for that horrible experience.

 

Our adventures with food with Alexia may be easing up some. She seems to be getting over her cows milk issue. We allowed her to have a cheese quesadilla with real cheese the night before her doctor appt. If she was going to have an allergic reaction it would be present the next morning, and then the doctor could see the breakout and advise us accordingly. So far no breakouts, and she LOVED the quesadilla with the real cheese. We have given her stuff with vegan slices and it doesn’t go over very well. If she is really able to tolerate cow’s milk products more now, that will make things so much easier. You would be surprised how many every day convenience items have either cheese enzyme or milk protein in the ingredients list. Now we can’t wait until she is two and we can try peanut butter. Oh my, lunch time has just gotten so much easier. Alexia also loves spicy food. Much spicier than Erin likes, so we tend to cook things too bland for her.

 

Alexia is making great strides developmentally. She is RUNNING, walking, crawling everywhere. She loves to climb and has started jumping. She loves to play hopscotch with Mommy (look for video clips). She is very independent. Her fine motor skills are really growing. She can match shapes and colors, build small towers with blocks, toss and kick a ball around. She loves to color with both markers and crayons. She has made real progress with the spoon and fork. She still gets stuff all over but much more makes it into her mouth and body these days. It is a real struggle to let her do it all herself and not help. We aren’t concerned with the mess, but we want to be sure she is actually eating food and not just wearing it and using it for a face mask.

 

Alexia’s verbal language is finally starting to grow. She understands us without any issue, but she has chosen so far to take her time building her verbal vocabulary. She is learning new words all the time, but uses them sparingly. Her signing has grown enormously and is a very key component in communicating right now. Alexia has been seen by both an Occupational Therapist and a Speech Pathologist. Both agree that her delays in both language and cognitive skills are due to English being her second language and having only been exposed to it for 6 months. Everybody has every confidence that she will catch up. Alexia loves books, she can’t get enough of books. And much to our chagrin, she loves Teletubbies. We find it annoying, but she thinks they are just the funniest things on earth. The only other TV Alexia is allowed to watch are her two Sesame Beginnings Videos. She can identify Elmo, Big Bird, and Cookie Monster.

 

Alexia’s emotional and social development and adjustment has very much been in question over the last 3 months. On the surface Alexia appears to be settling in very well. When at home, at classes and church, or in public places (i.e. park, grocery store, mall, etc) she definitely refers to either of us as her security base. She loves to spend time with other children, especially older children. She gets very excited and has a great time with Lauren (age 6) and Carly (age 7). She also gets excited to see Alyssa and Kiana, friends that are the same age as Alexia. She is also curious about the babies in the family but keeps a bit of a distance, which is best until she can be more gentle. Recently we’ve been to the park and to dinner with Alyssa and Lauren and their parents, it was too darling to watch Alyssa and Alexia interact. Alyssa came up to hug Alexia and Alexia allowed it and later reciprocated with a hug of her own to Alyssa, and to watch the two girls hold hands and walk together was just too much. Unfortunately when we add other grownups to the immediate mix (inner circle) is a point of confusion for Alexia. It has become painfully obvious that Alexia is grappling with the changes that have taken place in her short life, exactly who WE (Mommy and Daddy) are to her, just what is a Mommy and a Daddy, and then where do all these other adults clamoring for her attention fit in the picture. To clarify the definition of Mommy and Daddy that Alexia will be taught are Mommy and Daddy are the two people that take care of you, they feed you, clothe you, provide a place to live, keep you safe, make you feel better when you are sick or hurt, they give cuddles, hugs, and kisses for no other reason than they love you, they put you to bed at night and get you up in the morning, they help you with school and play, and are there for you everyday of your life. Alexia knows the words Mama and Daddy, but she doesn’t use them in direct reference to us. If you ask her to give something to Mama or Daddy she will give it to the appropriate one of us, she knows Erin is Mama and Ken is Daddy for the most part, but she does not call us Mommy or Daddy. If sitting in the same room and we have a photo and ask her who is Mommy she will point to Erin in the photo rather than Erin in-person, and same with Daddy. This is an area of concern with the therapist.

 

Alexia started having Night Terrors when we were in New York. These Night Terrors have continued and have followed every event we have attended with family or close friends. We are working very closely with Alexia’s Pediatrician (who is the best we are so grateful), her social worker, and her Parent Child Interaction Therapist (PCIT). All agree that we need to continue with the exclusive care approach with Alexia and keep her environment as static as possible for now. It is hard to do this with out actually going into seclusion, but it has been even harder to invite people in to be a part of her life but try to explain to only be an observer for now. We get that these concepts are hard for everyone to understand. We just can’t stress enough that we have to do what is best for Alexia. After some time in PCIT we will be discussing with the therapist how to plan to handle the stressful holidays and her 2nd birthday (first one with us as a family). So we won’t be discussing potential holiday plans with anyone until mid October. Alexia has made it very clear she is not ready to travel away from home yet, not secure enough yet. So we have had to cancel our plans of going to Texas for Christmas. We have tossed about the idea of offering to have Christmas here for the Pietrasik side (it is their year this year) but we have to wait to see what the therapist says about handling the holidays first.

 

We are all happy and healthy. And we thank God everyday that we are a strong family, and we can use this strength and have the resources to help Alexia get past any hurdles and help us give her the strongest foundation possible for her life and her future.

 

Thank You

Ken and Erin Pietrasik